Nollywood actress and producer, Olanrewaju Barakat Olatoun is currently the talk of the moment, as she pens an open letter to her ex-husband .
She firstly appreciated her husband for accepting her and her son, for playing fatherly role in his life, for standing by him and for preaching peace.
In her letter to her ex-husband, she told him to remember that kindness is the mark we leave on the world.
She reflected on how their attorneys wanted to keep them fighting in court but they chose kindness and peace. She stated that they were told they would look weak to the other, if they showed any level of kindness.
But she was raised to believe that showing kindness is strength. Though, she admitted that it’s not easy to be kind to someone who hurt her.
She revealed that she has finally forgiven herself for the wrongs she did which led to the dismiss of their marriage.
Olatoun stated that her ex-husband needs to forgive himself and if he ever needs her forgiveness, all he needed was to ask as they both deserve joy in their lives.
Nonetheless, she is happy they have both found themselves in a new family.
Olatoun had accompanied the lengthy post with a video of her ex-husband and her husband on a family outing with their son.
“Open Letter to my ex-husband and to the father of my first fruit.
Firstly I will love to thank my husband Mr Abdul Azeez Kayoade Adekola for accepting me with Abdul Mateen. Thanks for playing that fatherly role oko mi. Thanks for standing by me and thanks for preaching peace.
To my Ex-husband
Please remember that kindness is the mark we leave on the world.
This brings me to strength, I know our divorce attorneys wanted to keep the fight going as long as possible in order to keep. If kindness was shown by either one of us we were led to believe that we were looking weak to the other party. You know.. Giving in and caving!! But I was raised that showing kindness is by showing strength. It’s not easy to be kind to someone who hurt you. I have thought hard about this and I wouldn’t even be concerned, let alone typing if we didn’t have a child.
But we do.
You are not weak by showing kindness to the mother of your child. Not am I weak by showing kindness to the father of my child. How amazing would we all feel if we had just set aside the grudges and shown our true strengths by our kindness? How wonderful would that have been for our child to see? So many valuable lessons could be taken he’s adult life from the example.
“Forgiveness” Like I have said this word many times and I tried hard to actually forgive but it’s not you, u am concerned about forgiving. I have finally forgiven myself for whatever it was that I did to contribute to the dismiss of our marriage. I have forgiven myself for even thinking I need to forgive myself. Even though we thought it was a forever marriage when we took our vows, we both know things happen and people change. I don’t blame you anymore for leaving us.
You are the Architect of your own life and responsible for your own decisions. I now think it is you who Kay need to forgive yourself. Ad if you want my forgiveness all you have to do is ask. We all deserve to have joy in our lives but am happy er both find ourselves with a new family. So now is the time for our gratitude and maturity, we need to be happy and be contended with what we have and also let those who did sacrifice recover…..”.
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